If you look into your friends life, who is abroad, on Instagram its hard to unnotice how much they are enjoying. The quality of life and pay is much better there. At least a couple of people that you know are planning to go outside and the sense of achievement in doing that is greater than anything that you do here.
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I decided to stay here even when i had privilege to easily go to abroad. My most classmates moved abroad and remaining friends are planning to leave after bachelor. Most probably i will only have one close friend staying in nepal(not sure of him also). I will loose all my close friends in a year now. For now im grinding to do my own business here. As im not established yet i sometimes feel sad but i always try to motivate myself and accept everyone have their own calling.
Yes, but I guess I have sort of made compromise with the reality. One of the things that helps is not indulging too much on social media platforms like Insta, TikTok etc..
I am abroad and I still don’t like it as much as Nepal, I have no idea why. I didn’t like the big buildings here, I missed that whenever I was outside of my home in Nepal I could easily go to a restaurant and eat something, but here I can’t because everything is freaking expensive and I have to think thrice. I miss The feeling of home and I don’t think earning too much money would make that feeling go away. One thing I’m sure of is I’m definitely not staying here and will be returning forever. Even though the condition of Nepal is really sad, it is home.
From abroad I would like to say, if I get chance I will move back to Nepal and do my own things. It’s nothing like people see in social media. Bahira bata herda ramro vitra bata khokro xa, But Tei ho, coming from poor family it’s not easy to move back. Responsibilities hold us back to stay
Stop comparing your life to the life of people you see on instagram and you’ll be much happier.
I live in a place where there are not a lot of Nepali and I opted out of all social media at the time of corona when everyone decided to become epidemiologist. So i don’t really get to see a lot of these posts.
I understand what you mean by “Nepalese abroad on Instagram”. The sad reality is people who have disappointing life seek validation through social media. The lifestyle they show is quite hard to maintain in the long run for anyone.
With that being said, your life abroad is going to be what you make. I do not plan to return until I get retired. I have certain goals that are impossible to attain in Nepal(trust me, i have tried, i moved abroad at the age of 30). But if your friends show you lavish lifestyle, you should ask them how happy they are exactly.
I have been struggling in Nepal after bachelors for last 10 years . I was a university topper.. could easily go anywhere.. I can easily go anywhere right now but I dived into business immediately after bachelors.. and failed spectacularly for 8 years.. lots a lot of money.. lost myself .. got depressed.. my juniors and friends all finished masters and most are abroad.. I ha e no degree.. but I also got married and have kids.. and was able to be with mom and dad all these years.. eventually after Corona ended business clicked.. I have 4 businesses now and 17 staffs.. make in excess of 3/4 lakhs profit every month.. .. u need to keep griding and don’t give up.. I got depressed.. I almost quit and started looking for job.. my family is relatively rich.. so I always had something to fall back to.. but all my business I started with my own money..
Life abroad is not better in every aspect. It is somewhat easier to get basic needs met but harder to get more. Most of life is just spent just paying for house car bills etc etc and never going anywhere unless you were born here and your parents were settled well. Also travel is a bit easier and lots of good places pretty near and accessible so everything seems great but in reality normal life sucks but the other stuff is a bit better.
Also lot of students struggle here with a lot of things. Perhaps you see only the successful ones but you never see the failures. It’s called survivorship Bias. Lots of students are struggling here with rent, with money, trying to find jobs, getting cheated on by Nepalese living here (a lot of help too). Paying more than normal students for college and not getting jobs after passing. Colleges are running scams eith useless degrees or are only there to take money from international students.
International students are like a big money grab for every one here as well as consultancies back in Nepal. CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY if anything.
I am currently studying abroad, but as soon as I get a chance to get back to Nepal, I would.
Abroad is a such a general term.
For example if you went abroad as a student (which is how most of the people I know go) to a country with for profit schools, life is a struggle unless you have scholarship. Australia, US, UK. Life is a struggle to work enough to pay for living and tuition, then study to not fail, you may also need to send back money to your parents as you are in “paisa kamauna milney thau”.
If you get over this or have come with scholarship or for work, then life is much easier. You have more purchasing power and disposable income. You can go visit any country at least once a year.
I am abroad, and doing decent enough. My life would be quite ok in Nepal as someone from upper middle working class family. But certain things like economic freedom is much better outside.
This makes me sad. I would have like to live in my country. But with the life I have now and knowing what I would miss in Nepal, I can never go move back to Nepal. I had much more fun in Nepal as a tourist rather than when I was living there.
The point is . What percent of life you see on social media is reality?? And yaa if you compare yourself with them then naramro lagcha . Malai ni lagthyo tbh but man i love my family. I am from a privileged family . Mamu baba jana bides k bhayo ra 2 3 barsa ghumera aija bhansincha but man lagdaina cause i am afraid of being away from family.
When i was unemployed for 2years during lockdown period i was frustrated & i had this mentality of going abroad as my both sisters were in abroad.. So i showed interest & as my both sisters have brought home there & had pr so i don’t have to worry about rent plus my both sisters decided to sponsor my fees so it was very easy.. And yeah due to covid Australia holds international students so i decided i would wait.. And looking at me showing interest on going abroad my dad made few calls got me job which is just 10mins distance from home.. And told me not to go abroad, why you have to go abroad this house, bank balance rent everything is for you.. You don’t need to go abroad.. Now you have job, it doesn’t matter how much you earn..We have more than enough.. Looking at my parents being sad about me going abroad i decided to not to go abroad.. So stayed here.. Buried my that mentality of going abroad.. I don’t feel anything right now as i have job but i wish i never have to regret in future not going abroad when i had chance..
Abroad basna laini if you are rich in nepal ani hundi bata eta uta garera ghar chitai kinyeu bhaneta atleast ghar bhayeni kinyeu bhane ni dherai relief huncha natra lower mid ra mid harlai abroad mani garaicha bro.Kaam nagari sukhachaina rent tirna pugdeina gharma pathauna pugdaina.Daily kaam kaam ,Koi side ma bolneni hudeina .Eklo nyasroan. Aba estai hustle garna sakchau hya baal ho bhandai bhaneta thikaiho natra ma testo wild khusi bhako rich bahek chai koi dekhdinahai
No absolutely not. We make and save more money here compared to all the bills and mortgages they pay.
If given the chance or opportunity, would go in an instant.
Its all about self satisfaction where ever u stay. Even if u are staying aboard and doesnt have any self satisfaction then its no use
quality of life depends on your income. I have seen Nepali people living in really worse conditions in Europe; and also some of them doing pretty well.
Still, an average European has a far better quality of life compared to average Nepali. They can sustain their Basic needs, have access to quality health and education even by working minimum wage jobs. Also, Food is not as much harmful pesticide laden as in our country.
so for Europeans its definitely a quality life here but for us, I don’t really know because at first it is challenging to integrate, we miss our families, certain hints of discrimination and strange looks are not uncommon. Navigating a world and culture that you have not grown up in is challenging.
Question is weirdly framed bro
Staying in nepal and missing out on better pay / stable life is hard. Being abroad in a strange land, far from family and friends is also hard. Life will always be hard, but we have the choice on which type of hard we want to endure. 🙂
Grass is always greener on the other side and People fake for self-gratification.
Comparison is the end of joy
Seems like people in nepal wanna move abroad and people abroad wanna move back to nepal. Grass is always greener on the other side
Well if you have wealth there is no point going abroad. You can live your best life at home.
I left the country when I was 20, 14 years ago. As an introvert, it was difficult to blend with Nepali migrants, slowly I fit into a group of good folks with similar vibes. Now I am happy with my small family and foreigner friends, got some Nepali friends but since life abroad is mostly work and home, there is no real gathering and bonding with new friends or existing.
I feel bad as my last cousin who was in Nepal left for Canada, there is not much connection to any of my generation folks to hangout if I visit Nepal.
We need to stop this happening to our grandkids, we should make our country livable again.
If there was no money, I think no one would leave the country except some move due to toxicity within family and relatives.
Been in the US for over 15 years and well settled. After working my ass off for so long in corporate life and being alone most part of this journey; i have appreciation for much simpler life in the mountains. It is a wish- have a self sustainable farm on the hillside(for my family), promote eco-tourism, invite people of various expertise like Nurses and doctors on treks/visits and help provide much needed healthcare to left out generation and older people for free; teach some cottage industry skills to men and women there; grow and eat organic food; help out in local schools and education; help people realize potential of the mountain life etc and then go on treks, celebrate festivals, read books, meditate etc.. Experiment and vet out to build a model of beautiful and better life in the mountains that can be replicated across other diminishing villages in Nepal.
Being away from home teaches the value of home and what could have been. It definitely brings out the maturity that Nepal likely would not have given. But, there are a lot of people who have been away wish for something to hope for to permanently return. Maybe, for the people that are staying there, it is an opportunity to build some foundations for fair, equitable and transparent socio-economic set ups for many that want to be back.