Late 20s and the quarter life crisis

Late 20s and the quarter life crisis

Please read it all if you can but if you don’t want to, there’s a tldr at the end. Also reach out if you’re feeling the same and want to talk.

I am in my late 20s now and I feel like I have a bit of quarter life crisis. There are a few different things and I felt like writing because others might relate as well.

Life has been good, God has been kind and I don’t have any reservations about it. I am fortunate to have so much and be in such a good place in life. I can’t ever be grateful enough for all the people and opportunities I have had. But again there’s a void, a feeling of emptiness at this time.

There’s a feeling of being stuck in life where it doesn’t feel like it’s moving as rapidly as before. There’s no next thing that I need to do and everything is upto me. Whether I want another job or do this, that, it’s all upto me. Before there was always a thing you had to do: go to school, then go to college, then get a job and life moved so fast and in a guided path. Now, it’s like it slowed down a lot. I do know it’s moving but I’m not getting the same excitement anymore. Well obviously there’s a ‘next big thing’ that I need to do but there’s a conflict in there as well.

I’m single and not even actively looking for someone or putting an effort. It’s more because of the fear of making that big and final decision of life and not being sure about it. I do feel the need of that significant other in life to make it ‘complete’ but also don’t feel ready to make that commitment.
But now I’m questioning if that other person would really fill that void? What if it’s me? There are a lot of videos these days around which say ohh happiness is within you, you need no one, blah blah and I think those are bullshit. I think being single and able to be happier than a good relationship is a myth. Humans need that other person. There are surveys that show married couples are happier, earn more, healthier than single people. So I do acknowledge that other person can bring a lot of happiness but I’m conflicted if that’s all that I need.

Loneliness is a part of life now; consuming me every now and then. So I talk to my friends a lot these days, almost daily and I feel that they want to talk as well maybe because of the same reason but we don’t really talk about it. I am so grateful to have them. They give me a sense of being connected, a sense of me not being alone out here.

Anyways that was my rant. I wanted to post here for some time and just did it. I’m a lurker here. Does anyone else have these feelings? I know a lot of people feel the same way about ‘marriage’ which also involves ‘finding that person’ for many people. I do feel these feelings are here only for some time, maybe until I turn 30 or I get married lol. Who knows?

Tldr: late 20s are weird times, you are kinda lost, feel stuck in life, don’t know what to do next or what your purpose in life is. Maybe the void is also because of not having a partner but would that fix all those feelings? Is that all that I need? Also, love your friends and talk to them (a lot).


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