I just hate when festivals approach,meaning there will be holiday and I have to stay at home.Nowadays I just feel so alone and so a.bit scared of idk what. Everyday my mom and my dad fights over the most silliest thing ever and to top on that these years are the most important academic years of my life they are always pressuring me.I’m just a lazy teen who does nothing but to trouble her family. I just feel like I’m family black sheep and everyone prefer my cousins over me,even my parents (which is true) I’m not good at anything. My friends they all have their talents and they have a solid plan on what they will do after 10 but me on the other hand,I can’t even decide what colour dress I want on dashain. I feel so guilty knowing that my parents are working so hard for me and like me…I’m not doing anything for them in return I don’t know what I’m doing with my life and when I stay at home all these things comes into my mind and I end up having a mental breakdown. Im just gonna be a family failure when I grow up. I can neither dance or sing nor I’m good at my studies. I’m just a annoying piece of crap who does nothing but to cry and face the awful consequences of her action.i feel so alone in this big world I want to tell these things to my friends but ik damn well they don’t care and also they are also new to this world and they might be facing the same thing and on the other hand my parents,I don’t want to trouble them anymore. I don’t know what to do I feel so lost 🙁 pls help me any help will be appreciated and if you are experiencing the same thing pls you can talk abt it to me I’m here for you,pls everyone take care of yourself and don’t give up <3
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It looks like you know what your problem is and what you can do to correct it but you don’t seem to know that nobody in this world has a solid plan , everyone is just going with the flow.
You’re still so young. Remember the 5×5 rule – if you know this won’t bother you in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it
Dashain clothes, SEE – these are very minor. Don’t put pressure on yourself , everything will be okay
You’re in tenth grade? If so, there is a whole lot of time for you to be better at everything you’ve mentioned. Don’t sweat it, take it slow.
You are talking about home not feeling home cause you are not adding value… Kid, please chill out. You are a teenager, hence live the life of one. You are doing good. Your parents are a blessing and you are one for them, dong feel otherwise.
P.S. Thoughts are not you and they are not always true. Just thoughts.
If you are in highschool or +2 and are not getting good grades, you can get good grades in bachelors. I had a few friends who struggled a lot in school but did well in undergrad. The reason being so much stuff in highschool/+2 is general stuff and covers a wide range of topics and as you go higher up like undergraduate or masters the topics become more specialized. The things you study now might not be interesting to you, so I would say you might still get good grades in the future.
Also good grades do not mean success in life or having a solid plan means success. They help but many people figure out later in their life what they want to do. Hang in there, try to do your best and explore more. You might find something that excites you and do not focus so much on comparing yourself with others. And in the end, no matter how much your parents adore your cousins, you will be the one likely to look after them in their old age.
Just explore and know your worth . Keep working on yourself till you finally figure out yes this is what i want and nothing’s gonna stop me now . Strong mindset and discipline is must . People like to complain caz they dont wanna work hard , just sit and complain like everyone else caz its easy . Life is hard and we must work hard nor cry like a fuckin baby . Good luck
Work doesn’t feel like work anymore
Sounds like you’ve got symptoms of anxiety. Look that up. I could be wrong though.
i hate festival time too buddy
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ahh kids saying 9 as imp years of academic life rhhhh leave things worry nothing and enjoy 10 ma padhnu ramro sanga that too dashain bata start garda ni enough and what is “not good in studies” thats just an excuse to not study if you really want good grades you will put effort not rant its as simple as that just go and study just do nothing else no ranting and same for the “what color dress to get on dashain” just get one as simple as that too just go get a cloth and not a color and every teen nowadays just rants “ohh my parents dont like me” just shut up noone would like someone else’s child over their own and cry for what kid cry for what and ohh boy did you remind me of ramsay, george ramsay or smt like that ahh the memories haha (maybe the coursse changed lol but anyways) go meet friends navaye village jau talk to people be in awkward conversations no one really cares about the awkwardness just talk enjoy life aile nai xa aafter 10(if science) or 12 tw just responsibilities had i been in class 9 id not care for my studies or parrents ko hawadari ko jhagada or any fear or pressure just be free FREEE
*BE FREE*
(im super bored so just typed this comment maybe im not so serious or maybe i am idk)
your feelings are totally valid but just take a moment to remember that you’ve still got your whole life ahead of you. who cares if you don’t have a specific goal now?! there’s no rush at all. try different hobbies and be patient with everything. you don’t just get better in a single day. make new friends, have fun and most importantly dedicated time for everything/everyone including yourself. and even if you can’t decide about what to do next, there’s nothing wrong with being spontaneous sometimes. you never know what beautiful memories you might get to experience. just be kind to yourself and other people. :))
Advice to you, do some bodyweight exercises like push up, pull up go into youtube and start doing some of them also do some stretching make your body flexible. It came out of no where but bro keeping you body toned and flexible will help a LOT. I am suffering because of that. Also try meditation like 10-15 min vipassana meditation on youtube. These will help you get a better body and a solid mind to tackle problems. Go slow don’t rush things. You are this smart when you are just in 9th grade you will do great in life. Best of luck.
Most confusing time of life. Mast chola ani basa. Focus on study and yetro lamo yahan lekhnu bhanda learn how to write an essay (proper one)
Janey videsh nai ho Nepal 🇳🇵 ma kaam chaina. So focus on school . It doesn’t matter if you take management or science or commerce. No body cares, choose what you like. If you like money, be good at something other than asking opinion in Reddit. Learn music 🎵 and yes be a good human being.
It’s not a straight journey. There are ups and down in life. You’re also a teenager. All the hormones get you angsty. Learn to love yourselves. Do things that make you confident and build upon it. Life is so much bigger and grander than you can ever fathom at 16
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I’m honestly so grateful for everyone in the comments encouraging me and giving me some helpful advices
You guys are the sweetest 🙁 <3
First off dude it’s common to feel like that in teenage. We have all been there and done that. However, there are few things I do like to recommend:
I) Exercise
II) Pick up some good habits
III) Pick up some good non fictional book
IV) Learn about some other outliers who turned out to do great in life like Steve Jobs, David Goggins
Exercise doesn’t have to be a whole workout session. You can start with some light stretching, yoga, breathing techniques, push ups and sit-ups and progress little by little. Exercise helps you a lot with anxiety and bad mood. Don’t let your evil get to you channel it towards getting your inner self better.
Picking up some good habits might be tedious at first but this will change your life and your personality too. That can be something as easy as getting up early and helping your mom in the kitchen. Trust me if you approach your family and lend them hands it will make their day and if you do this often they will never compare you with other and starting respecting you implicitly.
Reading some non fictional book will teach you general knowledge and improve your vocabulary and command. It will encourage you to be a better person.
Finally, learning about the great people will give you humility and whole new perspective to your own life.
I know how much these sorts of down waves sucks in teenage but dude trust me teenage is the greatest time of life. Please feel free to DM me if you want to talk more.
OMG, have people forgotten to put Tl;Dr or how to put paragraph in a post??
IDK the contents of the post but I am happy that it happened to you or sad that it happened to you.
Ahile time xa ta ajhai do whatever you feel comfortable aru le plans ki future decide gardai ma hune nai hunxa vane pani ta xaia .Everyone has their change in heart almost everyone in life.9 10 ma chill ho aru le exaggeration garya jasto hudaina +2 ma ni tei ho(Sabai jana first ayo vane last ma ko basxa ta?).Specific interest bistarai badhne thing ho ekai choti hune haina.Disapointment banaune boat ta yeta praye jaso sabai xan hola.Go with flow ho aba ta