My bf once cheated on me and we had breakup for many months after that we had this strong connection we couldn’t repel each other longer. He constantly tried to rebuild the relationship and was genuinely sorry for the mistake. We got together after months of his efforts and we have been together since 2 years and about to get married soon but I am always afraid of the previous situation as what if history rep itself. Always have self doubt in that situation. We are good since then. I just want genuine suggestions on is my self doubt correct. Do people correct themselves with time
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Once a trust is broken it isnt easy to rebuild it. Has he not gained your trust still?
Tbh, once a cheater, always a cheater. Some people can also change for better given change in scenario. But you know him. We don’t. If your gut is telling you something, go with it. You know best.
Kta manche ko jaat nai tyestai kt ra daaru bhanepachi hurukai
Once you get cheated on by your partner there’s no way you gonna trust him/her genuinely after then . You’ll always have doubt on him and on yourself as well no matter how much they try to comfort you and try to rebuild the relationship after cheating on you
And cheating isn’t a mistake don’t take it lightly he wouldn’t have done that if he ever genuinely loved you people can change tho,he may not do that again but the insecurity and doubt gonna remain inside you forever
People can learn from mistakes. But when they do, you know it. There must be a reason why you are still doubting him. If you were doubting him for those 2 years, then apparently he wasn’t able to win your trust. He might be saying/doing something subtle that reminds you of that trauma. But if you started doubting him after marriage-talk came up, you might want to reflect on yourself.
I think context is important. How did you cheat on you? Was it just a kiss, he slept with someone or had another relationship with the person? Depends how he has treated you since then too, hopefully never made you feel insecure.
oneday you will get knocked up and then you will post about it
Leave him red flaggg
you know him,we don’t.
Timi pani cheat gardeu na . Barabar.
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At what stage of the relationship did he cheat you? And what kind of cheating it is? Did he sleep with others or just texted someone? I would forgive if he cheated at the beginning of relationship when there’s no deep connection but only excitement and totally forgive if that wasn’t physical.
People can definitely change but when it comes to infidelity, I’d always take it as an itch. He will most likely scratch again if there’s an itch (ie an opportunity)
You have these thoughts still lingering after all. So it’s not going to go away if you get married either. It’s best to address what you feel and if you still think it won’t work out, leave him.
Even if he never cheats again, you will not be able to trust him the same way and you will always feel insecure. Based on my experience, I would advise you not to get married, but it is your life and your choice.
Unpopular opinion : you have to cheat to know if you love them lol
but it’s sticky one because after the cheating you gave him a chance and his showing your the right thing and you accepted to get married to him but its going to be at the back of your mind no matter what,
But the real question is do you see yourself with him, and also don’t be scared to walk away and let him know that’s you will walk away 🙂